For any of you who are Seinfeld fans, you might recall when George was reflecting on how much of a failure he was at life.
"If every instinct you have is wrong, then the opposite would have to be right."
The following suggestions are going to, at first, seem wrong, if not unusual.
Now ask yourself this: How often have you done the opposite and had no success?
1. Don’t get excited about the change
Have you ever made a New Year's resolution? You get all excited thinking “This is it! I’m going to make the change now! I can't wait to get started!!” and when the excitement dies, you quit. Sound familiar? The key is to remain calm, cool and collected. Nothin' happening here. Just a regular day. Your brain doesn't want you to change. This requires effort. If your brain does not interpret a change, you are more likely to continue towards your goal.
2. Start making the change at an odd time
Start your change in the middle of the year, in the middle of the month in the middle of the week, at night time.
Why do we always wait until a specific time before making change? Much like the first suggestion, making changes at odd times throws off your pattern without your brain catching on. Just havin' myself a carrot at 2:30 in the afternoon. Nothin' to see here.
Stay calm, and change when the time FEELS right, not when it makes sense logically or by a standard calendar.
3. Small steps every day
This isn't very original, but when I say small, I mean really small: add one vegetable to your diet; park the car one row farther from the front door of your work; instead of 2 cookies, eat 1; take one deep breath at the end of the day.
You might be thinking, "Really? What's the point? I'll be dead before I notice any difference."
I know you've heard the saying "Slow and steady wins the race."
Now ask yourself, "What am I doing now to make change?"
If you answered "Nothing", then anything is better, right? Plus, as you gradually make positive changes, your body will crave more positive change, and by the time you know it, you're eating 10 carrots, running to work and teaching yoga at your local gym!.
Ok, that's a bit of an exagggeration, but you get my point. If you don't get my point leave a comment below and let me know how you really feel. Nice segue Creelman. Well played.
4. Don’t tell anyone about it
This is your little secret. You may get excited and want to tell others what you are up to. You might think there will be a level of accountability if everyone knows your business.
The problem with this is when things don’t go as you expect, you now have to explain to others why you “failed” at achieving your goal. Keeping things low key reduces your stress.
Failed is a harsh word by the way. Hence my quotes around the word failed up above. My little bit of foreshadowing. I'm right up there with Stephen King.
When you are making any effort, even if it is as small as adding a carrot to your diet, you are doing something to improve your health. This is success in my opinion, so give yourself a high five sista!!
P.s. If you happen to have a buddy who is working towards the same goal, this might be someone you want to tell, otherwise, keep it under wraps.
5. Don’t set a specific goal
What?! Unbelievable! No goal! That's right. Didn't see that one comin' did ya. That's how I roll.
Take positive, small steps every day, and one day in the very near future, you will see the change, whether you set a goal or not.
Setting goals or deadlines can place unnecessary pressure on yourself, and that kind of stress is no good for your health, your cortisol levels or your waistline.
You know what you want to achieve. Writing it down and making it all formal isn't helping. Taking action is. Just do it. I totally ripped off that last line from Nike. Should I get a good lawyer?
I really want your feedback, so let me have it in the comments below. Don't hold back. I'll just cry myself to sleep for the next few nights, but don't worry about me. I can handle it! No seriously. Have at 'er.
To your health!!